My bf likes to have really rough sex and I do not. What can I do to fix it? 

I have been dating my bf for seven months. We met on dating app Mature Fun. Other than this issue our relationship is really great.

The issue really is that he enjoys really “rough” sex while I very much do not. This started on the very first time we ever had sex- which was my first time ever. It was literally so freaking painful, I bled, tears literally welled up in my eyes, it was awful. I was not even close to having an orgasm. Afterwards I was getting redressed and he told me that it would be better from then on.

Well I believed him but it wasn’t true. I am a lot smaller than my bf and he seems to like this, only to be able to manhandle me and throw me around. I’ve told him multiple times now I hate this but he says he likes it and “it’s not hurting me”. Which is true, it doesn’t hurt me, but it doesn’t mean I like it.

And it is so,so,so rough. I am trying not to be too graphic but to get the whole picture, he will shove my face down there without even asking if it’s what I want to do, he also shoves my head down, during sex he goes entirely too hard, holds me in positions that are quite literally painful at the worst and just very uncomfortable at the least, and so much more.

I’ve told me many times how I hate this and how it doesn’t feel good to me. I don’t like being forced into whatever he wants and I especially hate feeling like I don’t have a say. He has claimed to understand, talked about it, promised not to do it, but it never lasts. One night recently he wanted to have sex and I asked if I could be on top, thinking that I could control the situation better. He says yes and it was all fine until he deemed I was going “too slow” and did it himself. Like every solution is not good enough.

I am trying so hard to be good at this and also honest but he’s so unreceptive. What do I do? I literally cannot keep having sex like this, it’s leaving me sore and with literal bruises on my arms and legs sometimes.